The goal of any parent is rear a well balanced child. A parent is a child’s first teacher and it is the responsibility of the parents to do there best. If the child is raised in a home where love in shown and the parents also have boundaries they are likely to raise a fairly normal child. There is no formula for parenting, Erickson talks about the stages of development and when parents are aware of these stages it gives them a general idea of what to look for at each stage. There are many parents who have done there best to raise there children the best they know how, however those child have become the opposite of who there parents raised them to be.
With the rise of MTV and BET children are exposed to violence on a daily basis. The internet is a source of information unfortunately, many parents have had predators come into there home through there computers. A child was once considered a model child may start to display behaviors unbecoming of his character because of the friends they have met online. A child who conforms to his or her parents can live a normal life where they are able to think for themselves. There is no guarantee how a child will turn out, this is why every good parent tries there best to raise a law abiding, well rounded individual. If there was a formula that worked for all parents it would be great however, it is up the parents to teach all they know and it the child’s responsibility to uphold the values and principles they taught to the best of their ability. Some children will choose to choose to do there best to be like there parent; while some may chose not practice any of the principles they were taught.
Monday, March 31, 2008
Discipline/ child abuse
We live in a culture that does not condone the hitting of children and those parents or guardians who do so could possible face time behind bars. When I was growing up the occasional spanking was acceptable and I knew if I disobeyed my parents time out was not an option. Although I was raised with this from of environment it was never considered abuse when I was growing up. My mother is a very private person and the moment I started to cry she would not spank we at all. This kind of corporal punishment kept me in check, because I didn’t like being spanked I tried my best to obey my parents. Never did I once hear the word abuse mentioned, the whole community practiced this form of discipline and we knew that if we disobeyed we would be spanked.
Spanking today in outlawed however, it appears today children lack respect for their parents and adults on a hold. It also appears there are more cases of child neglect and child abuse. I am not a supporter of beating children however; there is place for discipline of its kind. I do not believe parents should just grab the nearest thing they can find to hit a child that is in my opinion is abusive. A child should not be thrown and beaten like baseball, discipline in this format usually end in serious abuse. In today’s society there are many ways to discipline a child and spanking should be the last resort.
Spanking today in outlawed however, it appears today children lack respect for their parents and adults on a hold. It also appears there are more cases of child neglect and child abuse. I am not a supporter of beating children however; there is place for discipline of its kind. I do not believe parents should just grab the nearest thing they can find to hit a child that is in my opinion is abusive. A child should not be thrown and beaten like baseball, discipline in this format usually end in serious abuse. In today’s society there are many ways to discipline a child and spanking should be the last resort.
Word that has changed women
The word bitch refers to a female dog however, today many women answer to this name without hesitation and they even refer to each other that way. It appears that words that had a negative connotation are suddenly considered positive. The feminist movement fought for women right and many in roads have been made throughout the decades however, it appears we have also taken some steps backwards.
With the advanced of technology, we are bombarded with video vixens and scantily clad women who are willing to do anything to be on television. Television channels like VH1 and BET continues to play videos that exploit and degrade women. These women are often are referred to as bitches in the songs and videos and they are not in the least bothered.
One would think that a derogatory word like this would cause the feminists movement to be in uproar however, even they are silent. Whether or not silence means consent it appears as women we are not as vocal as in time past. More and younger women are referring to themselves as “bitches” and they seem to be no end in sight as to how much lower one can get. I think we are living world were more and more fathers are absent and girls are growing up without the male figure in the home. With single parents on the rise we are raising a society of young women who do not know there worth and they are more willing to stoup so slow without even understanding. With the absence of fathers, it has affected our young women the most and they are recipients of this dilemma.
With the advanced of technology, we are bombarded with video vixens and scantily clad women who are willing to do anything to be on television. Television channels like VH1 and BET continues to play videos that exploit and degrade women. These women are often are referred to as bitches in the songs and videos and they are not in the least bothered.
One would think that a derogatory word like this would cause the feminists movement to be in uproar however, even they are silent. Whether or not silence means consent it appears as women we are not as vocal as in time past. More and younger women are referring to themselves as “bitches” and they seem to be no end in sight as to how much lower one can get. I think we are living world were more and more fathers are absent and girls are growing up without the male figure in the home. With single parents on the rise we are raising a society of young women who do not know there worth and they are more willing to stoup so slow without even understanding. With the absence of fathers, it has affected our young women the most and they are recipients of this dilemma.
family and ethics
I was raised by a single mother who tried her very best to raise me in an atmosphere where the moral standing was very high. Even though she was a single parent, she was never alone. I remember my grandmother and grandfather making sure they had a influence on me in positive way. I knew at an early age that certain behaviors were not accepted and I tried my best to live up to those standards.
Now that I am older, I look back and I realize how blessed and privileged when I was growing up. There were certain things I had to know how to do, those things included cooking, doing house chores but most of all how to carry my self like a young woman. My grandmother and mother were seamstresses when I was growing up and just our last name meant that a certain behavior was expected of me. Even though I grew up in a home where we had hired help, I was still expected to do chores around the home. I was also taught to choose friends wisely because it reflected me as well as my family.
My grandmother was the matriarch of the family and she made her business to teach how to be refined not just in speech but in but in conduct. I remember going to elementary school (primary school) and I could hear her in my head as I would conduct my self on the play ground, “don’t speak so loud”.
The person I am today is a result of the training I got, even though I did not realize today I am so much like my mother and grandmother. Even though I am an adult thee are so things I will not do because without realizing it these moral values have been ingrained deeply within. One’s upbringing has a lot to do the person we are today and I will say even though my family wasn’t perfect the principles I hold dear to today are a result of what they have poured into throughout the years.
Now that I am older, I look back and I realize how blessed and privileged when I was growing up. There were certain things I had to know how to do, those things included cooking, doing house chores but most of all how to carry my self like a young woman. My grandmother and mother were seamstresses when I was growing up and just our last name meant that a certain behavior was expected of me. Even though I grew up in a home where we had hired help, I was still expected to do chores around the home. I was also taught to choose friends wisely because it reflected me as well as my family.
My grandmother was the matriarch of the family and she made her business to teach how to be refined not just in speech but in but in conduct. I remember going to elementary school (primary school) and I could hear her in my head as I would conduct my self on the play ground, “don’t speak so loud”.
The person I am today is a result of the training I got, even though I did not realize today I am so much like my mother and grandmother. Even though I am an adult thee are so things I will not do because without realizing it these moral values have been ingrained deeply within. One’s upbringing has a lot to do the person we are today and I will say even though my family wasn’t perfect the principles I hold dear to today are a result of what they have poured into throughout the years.
Trip to Nashville
It was a normal day at work and I was looking forward to going home at the end of my shift. My friend came to me in desperation, he continued to lament about how he had to go home to Canada and there was no one available to take to the airport. It was around eleven thirty and I was getting ready to go home. I was in no mood to drive any where else but home to my Sparkman Drive apartment. He was desperate and convincing I offered to take him to the airport. Before he left my work place that night I told him he would have to get another person to accompany us on the trip so I would not be driving back by myself.
The next morning I picked him up along with a friend and we headed for Nashville, there was a sense of trepidation as I headed to Nashville. Driving my sport utility vehicle felt strange in the rain and a part of me wanted to back out but, it was too late. As we continued on our way to Nashville the rain started to pour even harder and it made it very uncomfortable to drive. We about a mile from the airport and the exit sign said “to airport “however, I was in the left lane and I needed to be in the right lane. As I proceeded to change lane several vehicles were approaching and this made it unsafe to lane change, when I finally decided to change late it was too late. Within minutes we had hydroplaned and the vehicle lost control; we braced ourselves for the worst. Within minutes, what seemed like nightmare was over. The vehicle hit the side of a bridge and then it stopped. Miraculously, we were not hurt and the vehicle was only slightly damaged. We managed to drive to the airport and my passenger caught his flight to Canada on time.
After reaching the airport my vehicle died, it was towed to a garage and we had to ask for donation to return to Huntsville. It almost seems like a dream today but, it could have turned out worst, we could have been dead. What seemed like a good idea to help a desperate friend could have been fatal
The next morning I picked him up along with a friend and we headed for Nashville, there was a sense of trepidation as I headed to Nashville. Driving my sport utility vehicle felt strange in the rain and a part of me wanted to back out but, it was too late. As we continued on our way to Nashville the rain started to pour even harder and it made it very uncomfortable to drive. We about a mile from the airport and the exit sign said “to airport “however, I was in the left lane and I needed to be in the right lane. As I proceeded to change lane several vehicles were approaching and this made it unsafe to lane change, when I finally decided to change late it was too late. Within minutes we had hydroplaned and the vehicle lost control; we braced ourselves for the worst. Within minutes, what seemed like nightmare was over. The vehicle hit the side of a bridge and then it stopped. Miraculously, we were not hurt and the vehicle was only slightly damaged. We managed to drive to the airport and my passenger caught his flight to Canada on time.
After reaching the airport my vehicle died, it was towed to a garage and we had to ask for donation to return to Huntsville. It almost seems like a dream today but, it could have turned out worst, we could have been dead. What seemed like a good idea to help a desperate friend could have been fatal
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Blog Topics-Week Seven
1. The Kiss of Death-'Water fights at Tempe High' The one thing that I avoided was death while I was an infant. As a child in the summer while in Australia we use to gather friends around the community and choose teams. Once we chose the teams we ransacked the store and stocked up on water balloons and head in groups to the High school down the road. It was down the road where the angel death awaited me at the peak of the hill. So we waited at the hill on one side of the two way street and try to predict a pattern before we dashed across the street just under the peak of the hill. One of my friends Raymond had false jump start that tricked me to dash across the road where I collided with a station wagon who had baby in the back seat. Not only did the car hit me twice but the lady drove off. Leaving somewhat conscious with my body in severe pain and my skull cracked open. We later found out that the lady was speeding ultimately wrong for driving from the scene. The doctor said I was very lucky that I had a thick skull cause I would be brain damaged while he gave me stitches in my head.
2. The role family plays in shaping one ethics is pretty much everything. Individuals in a family are raised on principle, respect, religion and loyalty, which are all derived from ethics. Families are generated from different cultures where ethics is branded on the individuals in that family, making people different but able to be distinguish through ethics and cultures.
3. A hybrid car is combination of two or more distinct power sources to propel the vehicle. Common power sources are rechargeable energy storage system/internal combustion engine or fuel cell.
4. Discipline becomes child abuse when the child doesn't know what he is being discipline for. Also excessive discipline where the adult who is the guardian has a very aggressive nature and may to tend to over do the punishment. This would also be considered as child abuse.
5. Yes, any child can break the pattern their parents tend to follow. Even though the child may show characteristics of there parents but there is very few people who do break the pattern. Most individual tend to do follow on the similar path of there parents.
Blog Topics-Week Six
1. It means live your life to the fullest. Don't hold your head down cause you feel like you handed a cup that was half empty but live your life like it was half full after you just took as sip.
2. Black History Month is still relevant in 2008 because it is a month within a year just like independent day is still relevant in 2008.
3. The action that you make is under your control but you can not control things outside of your control.
4. Society suffer from hero inflation cause there are a lot more people coming out through publicity which allows individuals to idolize these individuals. Which society needs to be careful about idolizing people because there might be contradiction or conflict in the individual religion.
5. Yes. Women in general have not changed but a lot of movements and sexual revolution have altered the younger generation mind frames, but as society lifestyle advances and becomes more expensive, numerous factors in the setup of how women should be treated varies. Well I feel like women have killed chivalry and women need to raise these young ladies the way there mothers were raised so it would be less strain on modern marriages.
Blog Topics-Week Three
1. When i enter any specific space i hope that i don't influence anybody behavior, because people should be stronger than that to let anyone influence you especially if your a man. Now there is one specific place which is home where my younger brother lives and i found to see that he tends to look up to me a bit more than his sisters. He would come to me and tell everything about what going on in his life and then ask for advice etc. But yeah I believe my actions influence my brother actions to in the future.
2. Nothing but time can be done about alleviate racial tension and stereotypes that lead to minor and major problems in society. One thing can be helpful is to educate your children and teach them the ways of life and tell them to close there your eyes to situations that appear racial, but keep a broad mind to certain situation to take it on as learning experience.
3. Society creates many forms of sexual preferences upon members and it comes in many characteristics, it just depends on which society the individual is brought on.
4. The basis of scientific limitation is to advance and help human life not to make humans lazy or dependent on technology. The fear of technology is based on movies such as 'The Matrix' and 'Artificial Intelligence'.
5. The extent varies upon each individual but it is human to be sexually active if your hormones are fully functioning.
Blog Topics-Week Two
1. Life on campus when i first began was an eye opener since America was still fresh to me. I was amazed about the infrastructure in Alabama and it is very country since I was from the city (Sydney, Australia) Life without a car is quite critical as a freshman-young open to new relationship and now the view I have about life on campus is the opposite because the things I used to do back then wouldn't be a question now. Basically as you get older your view on life becomes the opposite to the view on life as undergraduate freshman.
2. I regret not being able to live on campus in the dooms as a freshman with my peers and getting the full experience of the college life.
3. I had moral dilemma at a funeral when I felt like blaming God for taking an individual that meant a lot to me. It was only when the pastor approach me and help me handle the situation morally.
4. Defense mechanisms I may of used in school was to block the negativity other students may try to use to distract you and bring you down to there level where they feel like they are not learning nobody else can.
5. To me it is trying to say that you need to crawl before you walk.
Blog Topics-Week One
1.Hi my name is Oludoye Oluwoye and I'm an Australian who was told since the 3rd Grade that English was never a strong point in my eduction. So I've struggled through out high school in English to get a B grade. Lucky for me I'm very strong in numbers which allowed me to advance in mathematics, technical drawing, electronics, engineering and physics.
2. A word that I consider negative is "CAN'T". Many individuals tend to say can't which i feel under estimate people in there ability do what ever they need to do as an adult. The word didn't necessary get corrupted but as I was growing up to mention can't in a sentence in a negative fashion teaches individual to give up instead of trying to elevate your thought process to do what is necessary to accomplish the task.
3. My role model name is Mr. Pinto he a man that passed away while I still present at the high school from lung cancer. He taught me many great values such as 'everyday you should learn something otherwise knowledge and time is being wasted.
4. I am scared of my self because sometimes i learn something about myself that i wasn't aware i capable of.
5. Evasive language is used daily in politics and in a couple relationships i know tend to each other certain parts of the full truth to avoid and prevent dramatic situation.
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